Hey guys! I am back with another blog and this time I will help you out a bit to overcome your fear of receiving oral sex. As we all know, not everyone climaxes while having oral sex. In comparison to any other sex act, oral sex is considered to be the most intimate one. Orgasm can occur not only through vaginal penetration but also through clitoral stimulation. Sometimes women feel shy to get their genitals licked, and sometimes it seems vulnerable to men having their sensitive parts in someone’s face. Anyhow, here is a list of things you should definitely consider to overcome your anxiety of unnatural sex.
- Communicate with your partner:
The first and most important thing you need to do is communicate with your partner about the discomfort. If you are not true in telling them the truth about how you are feeling about the things, then how would they be able to understand it anyway.
Expressing needs and desires can be the key to feeling more comfortable. You can tell your partner to compliment you about your look, smell, energy, or other things. This helps in squashing out any sort of anxiety.
- Examine yourself:
Many people have put on a huge mental block by thinking too much about vaginal hygiene. We think that we have too many or too few pubic hairs. It is very important to love your own body, I can help you with this through one of my courses if you are going through such a situation.
One solution to this can be examining yourself in front of a mirror and appreciating what you have. I myself got surprised to know that my boyfriend was more accepting of my vaginas than I myself was.
- Ease into it:
Do not force yourself into things, gradually get comfortable with your partner’s body and take your time to relax. Dim the lights, have some wine and then start with other kinds of sexual acts like kissing, breast play, massage, and then gradually move towards fingering, handjob and blowjob.
- Focus on the response to your partner:
Keep in mind that you need to take care of your partner’s interests too. You can notice your partner’s hip movements, moaning sounds and other actions to know whether they are liking it or you need to make changes in things you are doing.
- Eliminate negative thoughts:
Try to eliminate every single negative thought that comes to your mind. It doesn’t matter how you are verbalizing, and what your facial expressions are until you are being hyper-conscious about them. Thinking too much about them can eliminate the pleasure of the sex act.
Try to focus concentrate on the things that make you feel better. Tell your partner that he is doing it well. Compliment them for what they do the best and tell them what you would like them to do. All of this can help you become more close to your partner and eventually you will be able to enjoy oral sex with your partner.